Comments on: Fighting Sexual Sin

By: jdodson

jdodson — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 11:41:48 +0000

Sure. Journal of Biblical Counseling.. http://www.ccef.org email them.

By: Matt Donovan

Matt Donovan — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 04:55:16 +0000

Great post. Any idea where I can find the original article?

By: The Weekly Thingy « Life Together

The Weekly Thingy « Life Together — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 12:51:11 +0000

[...] Read Jonathan’s helpful post on how to fight sexual sin [...]

By: jdodson

jdodson — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 12:23:33 +0000

Funny, after I posted and went to bed I told myself that I should remove the "for guys" label for those exact reasons. I apologize if this was polarizing and I do understand that this issue cuts across genders, like all sin. The issue is not gender; it is sin, sin that Jesus died and rose to conquer. Grace to you in your struggle and thanks for your comment. By the way, here is a helpful article on sexual struggles often unvoiced by women.

By: Vince

Vince — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 07:19:26 +0000

Just a little reaction from the comment… the last paragraph… I think there are several examples of lust concerning the men….

David…
Solomon…
Lot….

Just digging a little deeper…
Nice post. :))

God bless.

By: Not Just a Men's Issue

Not Just a Men's Issue — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 04:45:56 +0000

Hi,

This is a great post. Very insightful.

However I would like to address the fact that you addressed this “For Guys…”

As a woman who has struggled / struggles with sexual addiction / sin it is extremely isolating to have this problem labelled as a mens issue. It makes it seem more abberant and that you are more depraved than men who struggle with it. (It’s almost seen as strange if a man DOESN’T have an issue with sex!) It makes you feel like the worst woman EVER.

For this reason I really fear that many more women struggle with it than would admit it, because they believe they are the only woman who struggles with it.

Even for men I know there is a tendency to hide this kind of sin, because it is seen as so shameful. Add to that the “No women struggle with this” idea and we make the issue insurmountable for a woman on her own. To address sexual addiction / sin we need to be in community and be open, honest and accountable. It takes ruthless honesty on the part of the person struggling, but it also takes the grace and acceptance of the community.

Let’s get past the myth that lust is just a mens issue. Interestingly, in the gospels I can only remember examples of women caught in sexual sin — where are the men?? Jesus clearly saw this as a women’s issue too.

God bless.